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Do you think your problem is that you’re too good? Or simply too nice? If the truth has to hurt, it might as well be useful:
You’re not being nice, beautiful soul. You’re being a coward.
Performing niceness is people-pleasing, and people-pleasing is fear in a charming disguise.
These days, everyone is chasing likes in every sense of the word. But here’s what we miss: the day everyone loves you is the day you’ll know for certain that you’re no longer being real. You’ve turned yourself into a social chameleon, quite the spectacle, but that isn’t why you were born.
People-pleasing is a defense mechanism rooted in trauma. As a child, you learned that being loved, feeling safe, and belonging to a family, a community, or a group depended on pleasing the people around you. You learned to make life easier for them. You met their needs, played the roles they wanted you to play, asked for less, stayed nice, and kept giving and giving. Maybe that kept you safe for a while. It served its purpose. But one day, you’ll wake up and realize you’ve built a life that isn’t yours at all.
If everyone else seems to be moving forward while you’re stuck in place, it’s because you’re being too “nice.” You’ve built your life around serving everyone else. It may sound noble, but it’s a disaster on a cosmic scale.
The universe is a mirror. If you put other people’s wishes before your own, what do you expect it to reflect back to you? You won’t get a prize for being a good girl. That “good girl” is, honestly, a terrible version of you, measuring her worth by how often she puts everyone else first. Why be surprised that everyone is moving forward while you’re stuck? You’re the one placing everyone’s needs ahead of your own.
The Creator is a mirror, too. We live in a universe of free will. The moment you truly see yourself, including your real wants and needs, the Creator will see you, too.
Being nice all the time won’t get you far. Set boundaries, even if they cost you tears. Your fear of losing people is causing you to lose yourself.
Listen in and find out how it’s done.
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