The more complicated we make things, the harder it is to act. One way out of that complexity is to change the story you tell about your life, because that story will determine what your life looks like.
A story is a set of beliefs formed by what you’ve told yourself over and over. Hitler said that if you repeat something often enough and with enough conviction, people will believe it. Today, we’re our own Hitlers. Tell yourself something with conviction, again and again, and eventually it becomes a belief. Your story binds those beliefs together. It becomes the soundtrack of your life.
So, what do you tell yourself about who you are? How much of your story is made up of sadness? How much of it is made up of the good you can be grateful for? Your life story is a collection of limiting beliefs, and there’s a good chance they didn’t start with you. Yet every time you repeat that story, you reinforce the beliefs that keep you stuck.
Then you decide you’re ready for a change, which is a good thing. The problem is that people jump straight to strategy: How do I make it happen? But if you’ve never made this change before, how could you already know how to do it? You do need a strategy. The mistake is starting there. A strategy won’t help as long as you’re stuck in the same story. Change the story, and the strategy will follow. Understand what you want and why you want it, and the how will become clearer, too.
The stories and excuses that keep you in place won’t get you anywhere. They only weaken you. “I don’t have the money. I don’t have the time. I can’t do it. I don’t have the energy.” When we keep buying into our own excuses, we become the ones holding ourselves down.
Make this your guiding principle: If I can’t, then I must. Act on it right away. Your life won’t change if you keep doing the same things. You have to do something that’s hard for you, something that brings up resistance. That’s how you build muscle.
When you change your story, you change the most powerful force shaping all our lives: our beliefs.
First, focus on the good things that have happened to you. Everyone has a story of divine providence (hashgacha pratit). Begin with yours and see where it leads. Change your story, change your life.
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Gili Man Wolner – Emotional Healer Jewish Motivation
