Fear and anxiety
6 episodes of The Truth Hurts on this topic, each with its notes, key points and the questions it answers.
Episode 108 · May 7, 2026
Anxiety and the Need to Know
You check and you check again, you plan out every scenario, you try to know in advance how things are going to turn out, and you still don't feel any calmer. According to Gili, that is no accident: the bigger the need to know, the bigger the anxiety, because anxiety is really a troubled relationship with certainty. The solution she offers isn't the intuitive one. Don't run from the thing that frightens you. Do it again and again, until your own confidence beats the fear.
Episode 48 · February 29, 2024
When Definitions Become Limits
You know exactly what needs to be done. The list is clear, maybe even written down somewhere, and still nothing moves. Gili Man Wolner says this isn't laziness and it isn't a lack of knowledge, it's fear, sitting much deeper than it seems. Underneath the fear is an old thought that repeated itself so many times it turned into a belief, and that belief is what's actually deciding for you.
Episode 34 · November 23, 2023
You Can Get Used to Anything
You know when you gave in for the first time, and you also know that it wasn't the last. That's how it works: one small compromise becomes the normal thing, and then the bar drops a little more, and a little more, until one day you look in the mirror and don't recognize the person you see there. Gili compares it to a frog in water that heats up slowly. It doesn't jump out, because it just can't feel the moment it turned dangerous. The solution she offers is the opposite: don't get used to it. Raise the bar right when things get hard.
Episode 31 · November 2, 2023
When Fear Takes Over: Choosing Love
How to choose love right when everything is collapsing
That moment when your mind jumps straight to the worst possible scenario? That's probably fear talking, not intuition. Gili and Tal look at fear and love as two opposing forces, like a north pole and a south pole, shaping our thoughts and our feelings all the time. The way they see it, most people run on fear without noticing: fear of failing, fear of letting someone down, and, deepest of all, the fear of not being good enough. They show that even in the hardest moment, you can still choose to act out of love instead of fear.
Episode 29 · October 19, 2023
Those Who Believe Aren't Afraid When It Matters Most
You're allowed to be angry at God, and it still counts as talking to Him
If in the last few months you've been angry at God and quietly asked where He was, and then felt uncomfortable with the question itself, you aren't alone. Gili says that anger and complaints toward the Creator are also a kind of conversation with Him, not a betrayal of Him. She doesn't let herself off either: the baseless hatred and the division that came before the war touched her too. From there she moves to what can still be done, three things together rather than one tool on its own, and toward the end, how to tell when what you're dealing with has already become post-traumatic stress.
Episode 21 · August 17, 2023
Why Do We Keep Chasing Certainty?
You're waiting for the moment you'll know for certain that this is right, that he's the one, that this decision is safe and there's no way to get it wrong. That moment never comes, and it's not because there's something wrong with you. The way Gili sees it, certainty isn't sitting somewhere waiting for you to find it. It gets created the second you decide, the same way Spider-Man gets his powers only after he already believes in them. The question isn't how to find confidence. It's how to create it.